To Claire, on the last day of her soul sucking job:

My Darling Claire!
Today you will set out on a new path. I’m so proud of you for making this leap and investment in yourself. It’s going to be scary jumping into the deep end of this ocean, but you have a life jacket and inflatable raft with me and the kitty, not to mention you’re scuba certified and a damned good swimmer. 

I guess what I’m trying to say is, I can’t wait for you to figure out just how good a swimmer you already are and that I know you to be. 
It’s scary quitting a job, and losing that security, but I’m excited for the freedom you are about to find. I can’t wait to support you the way you supported me while I was figuring out my own path. But this is an adventure, and we’re in it together, especially because I’m not a particularly good swimmer. 😉

You need something that will help focus your vibrant energy, brilliance & passion. I see so much potential in you and I can’t wait for the rest of the world to catch on. Life is all about change and growth and I can’t wait to watch the growth that happens next for you. 

Fuck, this is starting to sound like some kind of cult shit, doesn’t it? 

All jokes aside, No more boring, soul sucking desk jobs for, my love! You’re going to find that perfect career for your talents, and I really do hope you find in in the wine industry. I can’t wait to see what you do next and I hope you love it as much as you love me and the kitty.
In the days and weeks ahead, when you question your sanity in these decisions, remember that the kitty and I believe in you. Your family and friends believe in you. We all believe in you, and you’re going to do great things when you find that next path and career.

When things get tough, and they will for a short time, please remember my favorite quote from a Harry Potter novel:

“And now, Harry, let us step out into the night and pursue that flighty temptress, adventure.” — Albus Dumbledore

This is an adventure. We’re lucky that we get to take it together. I can’t wait to see where these next adventures take us. 
I love you,
-Damian

PS. Sorry I dropped your very expensive bottle of essential oils into the toilet and clogged the damned thing and tried to hide it from you. Thanks for loving me and all my 90’s sitcom dad-isms. I’m sure all the wine in our future will help with that. 😉

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